You know, we look at the word "ex," and it can conjure up all sorts of things related to that word. Just by saying the tiny word can create something that isn't appealing, and many humorous statements related to that word as well.

Let's take a different look. I'm divorced, and have a wonderful relationship with my ex. What we didn't know how to create in our marriage, we certainly have learned to create while not being married. I invited my ex into my life to teach me the things I needed to learn. I sent the invitation and he showed up. Now, there were some painful things, but it was exactly the classroom and teacher experience I required to help me "SEE" clearly.

When we got a divorce, it wasn't peachy keen at first, and I had to work through some anger. Yet, I also kept affirming that I wanted to have a beautiful friendship. Thus, I focused on what I wanted.

I remember Wayne Dyer making this statement about anger, and it helped me tremendously. He said that all anger comes from within, and no one is responsible for your anger. It wasn't something I wanted to hear because it was comfortable to blame my ex for my "feeling" bad.

Wayne Dyer explained this analogy and this is when I really got it. He said when you squeeze an orange, what comes out? Orange juice, of course. It doesn't matter the device that is used,or the person doing the squeezing, orange juice will always come out. Likewise, with us, when we have anger that pours out of us, it isn't the device or the person that does the squeezing. It's already what's inside. Oh, that 100% responsibility that can be a challenge, but also very freeing, and it depends upon how you look at it.

Take a look at this video that my ex and I did to celebrate the 30th anniversary of our wedding. And since I had forgotten to post this, and am posting this in December, we will be spending the holidays at our daughter's with our significant others. Pretty amazing, right?

I Don\'t Wanna Grow Up

Two years ago, I was on Thanksgiving holiday and walking on the beaches of the Oregon Coast. Now, the air temperature was about 50 degrees and the wind was blowing hard. Even though the sun was shining in all its glory, I had on a winter coat as to me it was cold.

Given that it was Thanksgiving, there were many families on the beach, complete with children in tow. While walking and admiring the scenic experience, I was mesmerized by three children playing in the tide pools. Now, if you know anything about the Oregon Coast, the water temperature is approximately 45 degrees. When you hear this temperature, we adults may automatically say, “Yikes! That’s cold.” Yet to these three children, “cold” wasn’t in their realm of possibility.

I couldn’t take my eyes off the experience that I created with these children. It was meant for me, and I paid attention. These kids were running through the water, splashing and laughing, in their bare feet and t-shirts and shorts. The temperatures didn’t affect their sense of play. Thus, they had no concept about the temperature until their moms said, “Oh, you must be cold and you must be hungry, you better stop playing.”

When the moms made this statement, the kids stopped their play momentarily and said, “No, we’re not cold and we’re not hungry,” and they continued playing. When I saw the look on their faces as they responded, it was as if an alien had spoken a foreign language, and they couldn’t understand the message being communicated. The kids’ experience was different than the parents, and they weren’t buying in to any other beliefs.

What I learned from this experience is we are to remember who we are in the pure bliss of being child-like. We are to exist for the pure enjoyment of being to create, to imagine, to fulfill our desires at that moment. We are to get lost in the “playing,” and play for play sakes, and that’s it. There is no outcome to be produced for the production lies in the experience in the moment.

We remember playing as children, and embracing each moment in the creation of it. When we built a fort, all of our imaginations put together would pull from cosmic sources unbeknownst to us, and unfold the materials for our creation. In this magical arena, we didn’t ever say, “I can’t do it.” We knew we wanted something to happen, and thus, we MADE it happen.

In the summer time, I remember creating a haunted house in my garage, and knowing people would pay to come into the haunted house. I enlisted the help of a few neighbor friends and we created all sorts of gooey stuff from our imagination, and the materials came into our experience just by merely thinking of the “haunting” effects that people would experience. We knew it would be great, and from this greatness, every conceivable force was at our side helping us. We didn’t even accept a notion that it would be hard. That concept didn’t exist!

Think back to being a kid, and how wonderful it was. Now, bring that “feeling” into the present. That’s how we are to “live” as adults. This is exactly how life is, and how we are to exist as adults.

We know that existence when we allow those experiences to just “be” for the enjoyment of the moment, and we also know contrast. In our adulthood, we try to get to somewhere else because in our minds this somewhere else offers happiness, a freedom from where we currently are in our thinking. This elusive “somewhere else” prevents us from being in the space of this moment, and pretend it, imagine it and have fun with it. We think we’re supposed to do x so that we can create y.

We didn’t realize that we’re to do x for the pure enjoyment of doing x. The y will naturally open up from the “feeling” of doing x., and it’s loving every moment of being with x that y will manifest.

For whatever reason, we adults adopted a presence of being that was all about a belief system of “working” at a job. And we centered everything around this “job.” We kept hearing, “You must get a job!” We believed that the job would be our ultimate “saving” grace, and would be the catalyst to guarantee whatever we wanted in our lives.

Is that belief true?

No, a job will not guarantee anything. It is our alignment with Source Energy that guarantees everything.

We came equipped with imagination, play, fun and laughter (feelings aligned with Source Energy), and we thought that as we entered adulthood, we were supposed to leave all this behind and be “serious.” And we accepted this belief, and we honored it.

“I am an adult, therefore, I must act like an adult. I must grow up and face all the adult things. I must be a man!”

Wow! What a belief to take on, right?

Now, I would have you entertain a remembering of this child-like behavior, and embrace what is our inherent equipment of imagination, play, fun and laughter. Use it on a regular basis for that is the perfect alignment with Source Energy. We inherited this equipment, and it’s our right to claim it as adults. Once this inheritance is claimed, it opens up abundance beyond anything we can imagine.

The abundance naturally pours out from the child-like behavior . And like Albert Einstein says, “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Imagine your life how you want it to be, and watch out world!

Be as little children as this “feeling” place is what Source Energy had in mind when it was designed. These feelings are the place to go to “meet and greet” our desires.

We’ve heard “meet ups” being mentioned in social networking arenas, but the supreme “meet up” is aligning feelings with Source Energy. Thus, go to your “meet up” place in every moment, and meet up with your feelings of being a child. In this place, your Source energy will meet you desires, and the results will be seen in the physical world.

And I like to wear my hat, “I don’t wanna grow up,” complete with propeller on top, because it allows me to remember being child-like.

Today, go play a practical joke on somebody, and allow all the laughter to flow from that experience. Even if you get in trouble, it's so worth it!

Vibration of Appreciation

I am Appreciation

Wayne Dyer recently was on a PBS segment promoting his new book, Excuses Begone. In this segment, he mentioned a different way of looking at the popular movie, The Secret. In The Secret, many people espouse that you attract what you want by going through a process outlined. Wayne’s belief is that you attract from that which you are.

I was touched by his message and fully appreciate his intent. It is the vibration of appreciation that brings us what we want, and in order to do this, we must BE appreciation. As we emanate appreciation for all that we are, we allow this flow of appreciation to us. It is a natural law.

We line up all our desires because we are one with the radiance of appreciation.

This is a very powerful illustration as I recalled a message from my boyfriend, Carlos. Carlos and I met on Match.com, and when we first met, I was struck by his comment: “If you show me appreciation, there isn’t anything I won’t do for you.” And it has proved to be true!

Thus, this message can fit for our entire life. Everything in the Universe has points of consciousness and points of receiving. Having said this, when we exude a vibration of appreciation, we communicate with everything from this point of reference, and everything “feels” our message loud and clear. From this vibration, we can’t help but attract all that we want.

It’s like the Universe gets slapped with our vibration of appreciation, and then says, “Right back at ya.”

When we’re not getting what we want, we only need to do a sound check with our vibration, and tune to a different frequency if we’re not on the appreciation wavelength. We know when we’re not based on how we’re feeling.

Begin by appreciating all that you are right now and the lessons you have learned. It’s in the lessons that are the greatest gifts that the Universe bestowed as the higher order was configured to help you align with Source Energy. We may not always appreciate the lessons because we didn’t want the experience in which the gift was revealed. Yet, there is always a congruent equivalent with an “appearance” of adversity. And the hammer effect will start to diminish as we live more consciously.

Begin right now to appreciate all that you are, and in seeing everything that has been called for as that which emanates from you as appreciation.

As I’m sitting outside looking at my beautiful view, I was inspired to write about the significance of Hula Hoops in my life. It is these promptings in the moment that I embrace, and follow as my higher self is conveying a message through me. Thus, instead of putting my fingers in my ears as I’ve been known to do, I’m allowing the message to flow in every cell, including the cells in my fingers as I type. I can’t have my fingers in my ears and fingers on the computer keyboard at the same time….a feat that I haven’t yet mastered.

Let if flow, let it flow!

As I remember who I truly am as an Infinite being of rainbow consciousness, I have a vivid memory of this rainbow consciousness as a child of five or six. In this experience, I allowed the energy of hula hoops to come into my life. I was a master at the art of hula hooping, and used this skill to “entertain” the customers in front of the local grocery store. Even at this young age, I knew who I was.

As long as I stayed centered, and performed from the pure state of “fun,” then the hula hoop stayed in position. Every morning during one summer, I awakened to don my hula hoop to experience the sensation, and then off to the store I would go to allow this blissful feeling to overflow to others. My only intent was to allow the fun experience to be. I loved giving this gift to others, and as my Aunt Margaret reminded me two years ago, she loved receiving this gift, and recalled this memory like it was yesterday.

And the harmony from her words are being echoed, “I remember who you are, and the gifts you came to share.”

Entering adulthood created a different picture. I began to forget the joy of my own hula hoop, and over the course of several years, I created some experiences of contrast that gave me pause for thought. Okay, really, I allowed these experiences to throw me off center and lose my balance, and wondered why I couldn‘t keep my hula hoop centered while running after others.

Are you seeing this funny picture?

In my adult thinking, I adopted others‘ beliefs and assumed what they did were my answers too. I thought others had the “better” way of creating my hula hoop experience because they were “successful.” Thus, I donned my hula hoop with its search light on, and chased after many others so I could claim their answers for my own. Yikes!

You can imagine the visualization of me running my race with arms waving all over the place, and attempting desperately to hold on to my hula hoop. Yet, I couldn’t run and center myself at the same time in order to maneuver my hula hoop for maximum fun. Thus, I kept dropping it.

What happens when we chase someone? They automatically run faster, and elude us. Our life movie scene can present chase scene after chase scene, and we never catch up to who or what we’re chasing.

Through my state of exhaustion, I began to realize that this wasn’t fun any longer. I was tired and didn’t want to play the chase game any longer. I was beginning to remember that it would serve me better to stand still, and open up into MY own beautiful rhythmic motion that I was born with. I was remembering who I truly am.

Can you imagine this beautiful conscious awareness that was being communicated through me with love for me and my contrasting experiences?

Having said this, I’m contemplating these experiences to understand the value of contrast because it is through contrast that I remember who I truly am Remembering the hula hoop experience at a young age brings a vibration of connection that is very familiar, as it is who I am, and what brings me incredible joy. I loved the feeling of moving my body in order to create the hula hoop suspending around my center, and no one could do it like I could/can. I was/am the hula hoop queen!

Now, as a child at age 54, I’m coming full circle….pun intended. As I keep expanding into who I truly am, I’m returning to that hula hoop experience. With this said, I now have lights on my hula hoop, and it can be seen for miles, and miles, even light years away. Because I’ve replaced the search light with my freakin’ beacon, everyone is attracted by my light, and they show up to join me in my hula hoop experience, and it’s fun, blissful, and down right slap happy. I do things for the sheer pleasure of being that experience.

Now, let’s look at abundance of money. Can I open up into my abundance through my hula hoop experience?

Absolutely! Abundance is already here, I don’t need to create it. I allow it in by staying centered in my core of vibration that is connected to Source Energy. Playing with my hula hoop is exactly the vibration I love to be in, and as I do this, I’m connected to my abundance. I truly believe it is a remembering to play, have fun, use imagination, to laugh. These are innate within us, and from this vibration of feeling good, everything flows.

There is something that you are that no one else is, and when you know this, you can do it all day long, and your light will shine so that others see it. And your abundance will be in resonance with this vibration, and will be visible as well. Like Louise Hays says, “Somewhere out there someone needs the gifts you came born with.” In addition, she espouses that your job, your profession, is only one channel of abundance, it is not your Source. Thus, your only action steps are to do the things that inspire you as you connect to your Source Energy.

If you are tired of chasing after others’ experiences, and trying to duplicate what they’ve done and claim their answers for your own, contact me, and I can show you how to be your own freakin’ beacon!

You may enjoy this video of me remembering my hula hoop experience.

We Can\'t Lose What is Innate Within Us

When I was very ill to the point I was bedridden many years ago, I was learning how my thoughts contributed to my illness. It wasn't easy to understand as I thought illness was physical, and I was soon to discover that illness stems from being out of balance with our emotional state, our spirit. The physical ailments show up as a means to help us understand this principle. The messages are always delivered. We can wait until they're delivered to us in the form of physical ailments or we can listen to the messages before the physical symptoms show up. It's like the difference between getting hit with a brick or a soft pillow? Hmmm!

As we learn to invite our well-being into our lives, we will attract so many wonderful people, books, events in our lives. Thus, when I was first introduced to these "thought" concepts, it was Oprah and Louise Hay who layed the groundwork for me, and I'm so grateful to them.

Take a look at the video and see how Oprah and Louise Hay played a big role in my getting well.

Grateful to Oprah and Louise Hay

How do we catch it? When you think about it, each one of us has the right to say "no" and decide what is the best fit for us. It's our own attachment to a person that will cause the spill to become huge.

Here's a statement from Wayne Dyer that will speak to this concept. "When we squeeze an orange, what comes out? Orange juice. It doesn't matter what tool you used to squeeze the orange–orange juice will always come out. Likewise, if we get angry because someone says no, it doesn't matter who did the squeezing or what tool they used (words, etc.), anger is what is inside so anger is what will come out."

Release the attachment to their response….it doesn't matter what a person says, it only matters who we are in the conversation with him or her. Check out the video so you can laugh through your no's.

Laughing through your no\'s